“Our fight for equality doesn’t have any ulterior motive. It’s just that: us demanding what we deserve, the same rights as everyone else.”
Being a Drag Queen, we asked more about the importance of drag in Barbie’s life. “Drag for me was always more than just fun, costumes and the chance to go on stage and for people to tell me I was beautiful. It was very much gender expression. I had a very strong feminine side that I didn’t have an outlet for in my everyday life, even though I dressed very flamboyantly all through my teenage years,” Barbie tells us.
“As a child, I was told there were male and female and I knew I didn’t really fit into these categories. Then I learned about being trans* and for many years I struggled with that, thinking that since I didn’t fit with either male or female, then this box would have to be the box for me. I almost started transitioning a few times. Drag gave me a bit of freedom during that time, not having to make a life changing decision, but getting to play with my gender expression and morphing back and forth between the poles of that particular spectrum. Now that I understand that I am non-binary, there is no pressure anymore. Drag is now fun, it’s glamour and beauty and helps me reach more people when I have something to say.”
Of course, being queer can be hard, it can be isolating, it can mean facing harassment and hate, and, on the other side of that, being exploited, but Barbie reminds us the beauty of being queer: “I will forever be amazed by what we as queer people can do when we get together and decide to “use our powers for good”. The feeling of unity that will sometimes happen in those moments, bringing together people who have never met each other before but who share the same set of scars somewhere is just magical.”
“We can be real bitches to each other but when we transcend that internalised bullshit, sometimes we soar and I love those moments. Chosen Family is a concept that’s not exclusive to queer people but it has a special meaning to us because so many of us had to find a new family after coming out. Those bonds can last forever and that’s another thing I wouldn’t trade in for anything.”